Parents need to talk to kids about Internet use, experts say
- 08 July, 2009 03:45
Summer vacation is in full swing in large parts of the Northern Hemisphere, and it's time for parents to talk to their teenagers about staying safe during the extra hours they will spend online, three online safety experts said.
Parents should know what their children are doing online, what social-networking sites they frequent, and whether they use their mobile phones to access the Internet, said representatives of the Safe Internet Alliance, Microsoft and America Online. If teens aren't made aware of the consequences, mobile phones with cameras can lead to "sexting" -- sending sexually explicit photos -- to friends or strangers, the three safety experts said.
Parents should communicate with teens and remind them of the dangers of sharing personal information, posting sexually explicit photos and meeting people offline, said Kim Sanchez, senior audience marketing manager in the Trustworthy Computing group at Microsoft.
"Kids need to think about what they're putting out there for everybody to view before they do it," Sanchez said during a Tuesday press briefing. "They should think before they post a blog post, or put comments on their page, or photos. They need to consider this could be seen by anybody on the Internet, and it may be permanent."
A recent Harris Interactive poll found that one in five teens, ages 13 to 18, have sent nude pictures of themselves through their mobile phones or e-mail accounts, noted Linda Criddle, president of Safe Internet Alliance. Eleven percent of those teens who've sent nude photos have sent them to strangers, according to the poll.
The number of teens saying they've sent sexually explicit photos to strangers was "shocking," Criddle said.
Mobile phones offer teens an opportunity to send pictures spontaneously, and some teens don't think before sending out embarrassing photos, said Holly Hawkins, AOL's director of consumer advocacy and privacy. "It leaves very little time, if any, for having a second thought," she said.
Many mobile-phone carriers offer parental controls, the women said.
The three women urged parents to talk to their children about ethical and safe online behavior. Generally, offering guidance is more effective than trying to control children's online behavior, Sanchez said.
"Parents need to negotiate clear guidelines for their kids' Internet use," she said. "There's really no technological substitute for parental involvement, supervision and guidance."
Parents can use parental controls to monitor or block much online content, Hawkins said. "It's important to realize that, just as in the offline world, parenting online never stops, its a never-ending cycle," she said.
Parents should get online and use the technologies their kids are using, Criddle added. "So many parents seem to be just sort of afraid of jumping in," she said. "They think that somehow they're going to break something. They don't have that same willingness to just jump into a product and try it out that their kids do."